Divorced, not Defeated: 3 Ways to Stay Positive After Your Divorce


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Divorce is a traumatic experience that can leave you feeling physically, mentally and emotionally drained and defeated. Although you may feel like your life as you know it is ending, it's important to stay positive during this difficult time, both for your health now and in the future. Here are three ways to stay positive after your divorce.


woman grieving after divorce

Allow Yourself Time To Grieve


Even if you don't want to think about life with your ex-spouse after your divorce, it's important to take the time to grieve the relationship. The grieving stages of divorce are the same as the five stages of grief that take place in other scenarios which cause a person to experience these emotions, such as the passing of a loved one.


Grief for the end of a marriage might look and feel different for everyone, but it’s completely normal. Emotional stages you may experience during, and after, your divorce include,

  • Denial

  • Sadness

  • Anger

  • Guilt

  • Depression

  • Acceptance

Remember, grieving your divorce does not have to be a linear experience, and you can experience a range of these emotions at any time or more than once. Validate what you are feeling, find positive ways to process the emotions and then learn to let them go. Allowing yourself the time to heal will benefit you and any future relationships in the long run.


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Build A Solid Support System

During this time of transition in your life, not having a support system to lean on can leave you feeling isolated and lost. A support system can be a variety of people, including,


  • Family and Friends

  • Your Community

  • Professional Help

Family and friends are naturally the first people we turn to after a difficult time, such as divorce, and they tend to know us the best. When in need of support from your family and friends, it's a good idea to let them know what kind of support you need from them. Remember, right now, you need people that are going to be on your team to get through everything.


Within your community, local groups offer support from others that know exactly what you're going through. By joining a local group, you have someone to talk to as well as ask for advice on how to deal with certain situations. They can share what has worked or what hasn’t worked for them moving on from their divorce, which can help you gain better insight and support.


It’s common to feel like you have to take on the burden of getting a divorce all on your own, but you don’t have to. If you're struggling with your divorce and don't know who to turn to, it's okay to ask for help. Seeing a professional counselor or psychologist can provide some relief from the emotional stress of your new life.




woman taking time for herself

Take Time To Focus On Yourself


A great way to stay positive after your divorce is by focusing on yourself. Start making exciting goals that you can work toward. Take classes, plan fun outings with friends, pick up old hobbies that used to bring you joy or make new ones. These are the things that will make you happy and remind you who you are, without your ex. Regardless of how you choose to show yourself a little extra love, investing the time to take care of yourself is the perfect way to focus your attention on your own wants and needs.



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