Social media has become a mindless habit for most of us. We wake up, and the first thing we do is check up on what's happening in the world and the world of our virtual friends, especially during a pandemic. Most days, this may be normal. What happens when you can't help but feel jealousy because your online world seems so perfect and you're going through something life-changing like divorce? Your mindless hobby becomes unhealthy and causes you mental harm. Navigating social media during a divorce can cause frustration, jealousy, or bouts of emotion. Here are three useful tips you can use to help get you through these emotions and back on a healthy mental road.
We've all been there. Our old friend Karen can't stop talking about how great her marriage and family are. You can't help compare your own life, and it's causing you distress because you're going through a divorce. Luckily for you, social media is something you can control, and it's your right to surround yourself with energy that benefits you when things are rough. Did you know you can mute people? You can hit a literal pause on someone without hurting anyone's feelings. I know what you are thinking - Wouldn't it be amazing for this feature to be available in real life? Unfortunately, that isn't possible as of yet. Still, muting individuals is a great way to navigate social media. Alternatively, social media also gives you the power to join groups or follow hashtags that can inspire you when you do not feel like things aren't getting better. Take a moment to research a hashtag that fits your emotion or describe you, such as #divorcemom #divorceddad, and see where that leads you. You may discover individuals out there that may be experiencing or have experienced the same thing you are going through right now.
Unfollow or Block
Again, we can't control the people around us. There are possibilities that former family members may judge you to defend your ex. If you feel like ex-family members are becoming hostile, you can unfollow or block. Yes, it's that easy. You don't even have to explain. All you have to do is decide who benefits your mental health right now. If that means your feed is full of inspirational quotes, great divorce blogs, and your best friends, then that is what you should have right now. Don't let online divorce politics hurt you even further. If you choose to keep the negative comments around you to stay informed, we can't blame you either. It's hard not to want to know what's being said about you. Keep in mind that if this does become an issue, you should ask yourself why you want to continue to hurt yourself this way. How do you change this thought process, and how do you reintroduce a healthy mindset? If you are struggling through these questions, it may be time to seek help from family, friends, or, if you feel comfortable, a therapist.
Take a break
Quitting social media sounds easier said than done, but if you find yourself on social media every day and realize it's affecting your mental health, it may be time for a cleanse. What do I mean by a cleanse? I suggest taking a real break from the hours spent on social media. Start small, switch to navigating social media to maybe just a few times a day, and extend that time to a few times a week until you don't feel like checking on an update. Use your new free time by exploring new hobbies that can help you mentally, like writing, art, listening to music, or doing something you've never done. Divorce is never easy, but divorce also means a new start and a chance to create the best version of you.
Lastly, it's important to note that social media can be an excellent tool while navigating divorce when used wisely. Please take advantage of its resources. You never know when you can run into an article that can help guide you through your divorce.