Your Partner Cheated, Now What?

Catching your partner cheating can be one of the most emotional moments of your life. Whether you had suspected the cheating or it hit you completely by surprise, you’re probably asking yourself, what should I do now? Emotions tend to always get the best of us. Before you throw your partner’s belongings out the window, take a moment to breathe and think, is your marriage over? If so, how will your family cope with a drastic change like divorce? Will you be confronting your partner? Will you be safe if you confront your partner about divorce? Will you need a restraining order? How will you handle child custody? Know that you’re not alone in this next phase of your life and C.Y. Lee Legal Group, PLLC is available to answer all the questions or concerns you’re having. This journey will not easy. Before you decide what to do next, here are a few topics to think about after you discover your partner's infidelity.

Calm down

It’s not easy taking the high road. You’re emotional, you’re upset and you’re most likely feeling betrayed but you must try to remain as calm as possible. You need support. You mustn’t react when your emotions are high. Call a friend or family member and take a few days to make your next move. Remember, you don’t have to confront your partner right away, especially if you feel like you would be putting yourself and your children in danger. If you believe you can get past the cheating and would like to make it work, talk to your partner and see if this is something they are committed to saving. The last thing you want to do is put all your effort into trying to save a marriage that could be already broken.


Your next priority is your children. No matter their age, going through a divorce will affect your child. Your responsibility is to make the best choices for you and your children. This may mean your child could be upset because they won’t have their family together and that’s ok. Do not feel guilty. Your well being and the well being of your children should come first however painful it is. You may also wonder if you should tell them. Depending on their age, being honest about the situation could offer you some insight into how they feel as well. Understanding your emotions and your children's’ emotions could help you decide if seeking therapy or counseling could be a major part of your journey.


How are you feeling? Have you eaten? Are you sleeping? Do you need to take a few days off from work? The worst thing you can do is not take care of yourself in the middle of an emotional decision. Keeping your body healthy is essential. Seek medical help if you feel sick. It's a good idea to clear your mind with a good walk, eat healthily, and to find a good support system. Support can come in all shapes and sizes. If talking to a friend, family member, or a licensed professional works best for you, then you should do what feels most comfortable to you. What matters is that you feel safe, you’re comforted and you’re getting the help you need.

Legal help

Even if you haven’t decided that divorce is your next move, talking to a lawyer won’t hurt you. It could be the guidance you need to decide on your next move. A divorce lawyer will be able to advise you about any child custody, alimony, restraining order, and financial questions you may have.

Finally, C.Y. Lee Legal Group, PLLC has more than a decade of experience in helping families through the divorce process. They are committed to finding the best solution for your case while keeping your best interests in mind throughout the process. We hope this helps guide you through this life-changing decision.

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