46 results found
- 5 Tips to Co-Parent Successfully
Adjusting to a co-parenting routine can be one of the most difficult changes for you and your children. Don’t worry, it's possible with just a little patience. Here are 5 tips to successfully manage co-parenting. 1. Communicate as a parent, not a couple. Having to communicate with your ex-partner during or after a divorce may be unpleasant. Like with any relationship, you will need to communicate even if it does become an argument. It’s important to recognize that you will have to build a new relationship with your ex in order to make the best decisions for your children. The idea is that you are both able to come to a resolution in the end for the best interest of your children. 2. Do not talk negatively about your ex to your children. It’s easy to badmouth your ex when you are feeling upset. I am sure every ex has done it but for the sake of your children, you should not. Why do you ask? It’s simple. You must stop and think about what it would feel like to have the roles reversed. How would you feel knowing that your children are listening to negative accusations about you? Children imitate the behavior of their parents from the time they are born. It’s the responsibility of a parent to teach their kids to be respectful even if it's hard and above all, to be their role model. 3. Create a visitation routine. Having to go back in forth as children to accommodate divorce visitation can be stressful for not only yourself but for your kids. It's important to create a routine with your kids so they are aware of their schedule. You can take it a step further by developing a visual calendar that you and your kids can manage each month. The calendar can highlight special activities with you or your ex-spouse, so they are aware of the type of clothes to bring and the exact time for pick up/drop off. Most importantly, do not be late for pick up or drop off. As difficult as it is to have to leave your kids, being respectful of time is key to avoid conflict. 4. Be flexible with birthdays and holidays. Birthdays and holidays can be important milestones for your child. If you know your child’s birthday or your ex’s birthday is landing on a weekend that is designated to you, be proactive and ask your ex if they would like to take the kids that weekend or would like to build a schedule of events for the day. The same with Holidays, if your family is planning a big reunion for Christmas, let your ex-spouse know and make arrangements that can work for the two of you. Work on a schedule with your ex that could be helpful for the two of you. The plan should always be to create positive long-lasting memories with your kids regardless of the circumstances. 5. Set social media guidelines. The worst thing you can run into is a picture of your child that you did not expect to be on the internet. Before you argue, set some time aside to discuss privacy guidelines with your ex-spouse. These guidelines can consist of describing the appropriate way to display pictures of your child online to how to respond to family members who may have an opinion of the photo. Avoiding conflict between families is essential even online as both of you navigate your new reality. Lastly, do you have questions about your child custody agreement or child support and would like to look at adjusting certain items? C. Y. Lee Legal Group, PLLC is here to help you. Click here to set up an appointment, or call (832) 838-1743.
- Your Partner Cheated, Now What?
Catching your partner cheating can be one of the most emotional moments of your life. Whether you had suspected the cheating or it hit you completely by surprise, you’re probably asking yourself, what should I do now? Emotions tend to always get the best of us. Before you throw your partner’s belongings out the window, take a moment to breathe and think, is your marriage over? If so, how will your family cope with a drastic change like divorce? Will you be confronting your partner? Will you be safe if you confront your partner about divorce? Will you need a restraining order? How will you handle child custody? Know that you’re not alone in this next phase of your life and C.Y. Lee Legal Group, PLLC is available to answer all the questions or concerns you’re having. This journey will not easy. Before you decide what to do next, here are a few topics to think about after you discover your partner's infidelity. Calm down It’s not easy taking the high road. You’re emotional, you’re upset and you’re most likely feeling betrayed but you must try to remain as calm as possible. You need support. You mustn’t react when your emotions are high. Call a friend or family member and take a few days to make your next move. Remember, you don’t have to confront your partner right away, especially if you feel like you would be putting yourself and your children in danger. If you believe you can get past the cheating and would like to make it work, talk to your partner and see if this is something they are committed to saving. The last thing you want to do is put all your effort into trying to save a marriage that could be already broken. Children Your next priority is your children. No matter their age, going through a divorce will affect your child. Your responsibility is to make the best choices for you and your children. This may mean your child could be upset because they won’t have their family together and that’s ok. Do not feel guilty. Your well being and the well being of your children should come first however painful it is. You may also wonder if you should tell them. Depending on their age, being honest about the situation could offer you some insight into how they feel as well. Understanding your emotions and your children's’ emotions could help you decide if seeking therapy or counseling could be a major part of your journey. Self-care How are you feeling? Have you eaten? Are you sleeping? Do you need to take a few days off from work? The worst thing you can do is not take care of yourself in the middle of an emotional decision. Keeping your body healthy is essential. Seek medical help if you feel sick. It's a good idea to clear your mind with a good walk, eat healthily, and to find a good support system. Support can come in all shapes and sizes. If talking to a friend, family member, or a licensed professional works best for you, then you should do what feels most comfortable to you. What matters is that you feel safe, you’re comforted and you’re getting the help you need. Legal help Even if you haven’t decided that divorce is your next move, talking to a lawyer won’t hurt you. It could be the guidance you need to decide on your next move. A divorce lawyer will be able to advise you about any child custody, alimony, restraining order, and financial questions you may have. Finally, C.Y. Lee Legal Group, PLLC has more than a decade of experience in helping families through the divorce process. They are committed to finding the best solution for your case while keeping your best interests in mind throughout the process. We hope this helps guide you through this life-changing decision. For more helpful divorce tips, check out our other blogs.
- New Year Divorce Tips About Taxes
Congratulations! You’ve made it through 2020. Now that the new year has started, it's time to think about how divorce could affect your taxes in 2021. Whether you are thinking about getting divorced or are in the process, it’s important to take into account what your tax situation will be as you finalize your divorce. This will help eliminate the sticker shock you may or may not see once you file on your own for the first time. Don’t worry! C.Y. Lee Legal Group, PLLC is here to help guide you through the tough topics like alimony, child support, and child custody. In the meantime, here are three divorce tips about filing your taxes. 1. Check the Date If you are legally divorced by December 31st, you are considered single to the IRS. Even if you were married most of the previous year, you are eligible to file as single for the new 2021 year. If you decide to file jointly with your ex-partner, there may be advantages like a much higher standard deduction but there could also be a few downsides. If you are still in the process of divorce and have decided to file together, keep in mind that you are liable for your partner's taxes regardless of who makes more. It is best to determine the best plan for yourself as you move forward. You do not want to end up in a sticky situation with the IRS if you feel like your ex-partner may not be reliable. 3. Child Dependents Claiming your child on your taxes can be a balancing act. Typically, if you have an even number of kids, you each can split them equally. For example, if you have two kids with your ex-partner, you’d take one and your ex-partner would take the other. You may be asking yourself, what if I only have one or an odd number of kids? Well, this is where it can get a little tricky and you may have to arrange a schedule while finalizing your divorce. A good way to look at it is if you are sharing custody of one child, you can go back and forth every year. If this becomes complicated, remember that the IRS gives the right to claim a dependent to the parent who has the child more than half the time. The child will also be considered a dependent until the age of 19 or until they are 24 if they are a student. 3. Deductions As you may already be aware, divorce can be expensive especially if you pay child support and alimony as well. One thing to note is that you cannot claim a tax deduction for either of the two. If you are a parent receiving either, they are not counted as added income. The IRS believes that both child support and alimony are considered personal expenses because the expenses would technically be the same if your family was still together. What about divorce costs? Are they deductible? Unfortunately, they are not. These costs again are personal expenses and will sometimes take a toll on your finances. Do not hesitate to talk to our legal team if you run into any additional questions about alimony, child custody, or child support. We are here to help. Be sure to keep a positive mindset as you start to look at your divorce finances and taxes. You are paying to find your happiness and that itself is worth every penny. For more helpful divorce tips, check our other blogs on alimony and child support.
- Houston Divorce Now
Adoption | Alimony | Child Custody | Child Support | Divorce | Injunctions for Protection Post-Separation Support | Prenuptial Agreement | Covid-19 2 days ago 3 min Your Partner Cheated, Now What? Catching your partner cheating can be one of the most emotional moments of your life. Whether you had suspected the cheating or it hit yo... 12 views Write a comment Dec 31, 2020 3 min New Year Divorce Tips About Taxes Congratulations! You’ve made it through 2020. Now that the new year has started, it's time to think about how divorce could affect your t... 13 views Write a comment Dec 24, 2020 3 min Have a Happy Holiday! Give yourself permission to relax and to be happy this holiday season. Let C.Y. Lee Legal Group, PLLC help you through the divorce process. 14 views Write a comment Daniel Lee - Managing Attorney Since becoming an attorney in 2007, I have become a daily advocate in courtrooms for the families of Fort Bend and surrounding counties. I know the law and how it’s applied. Read More Maria Holmes - Associate Attorney Maria Holmes has been zealously advocating for clients for years now. Her primary focus has been in the areas of Family Law, Immigration Law, Criminal Law Read More Vanessa Villagomez - Office Manager Vanessa is committed to the steady growth of the firm and every client to have an established well-informed transition in each case from file to trial. Read More Your Trusted Family Law Attorney CALL TODAY weekly newsletter
- Terms & Conditions | Houston Divorce Now